socialist guinea pigs

pierianspring:

akagoldfish:

thecurseoflostdays:

akagoldfish:

Is it just me or does this seem like a giant “fuck you” to any women who isn’t comfortable for whatever reason being feminine?

pretty much. the part addressing women only being friends with men because other women are “silly” is spot on, but everything else is incredibly fucked up.

Oh, really? That was one of the parts that really bothered me. I mean, if that was the literal reason a women gave for preferring to be friends with men, then the criticism would be valid, but that the “silly” thing just seems like a strawman. I’ve known a lot of women who generally prefer friendships with men, and “women are silly” was never the reason. They had issues with conventional femininity and had trouble relating to women who embraced it.

Really, the only thing on this list I can take at face value is the “rolling your eyes at women’s issues”.

In the book, the women Levy interviews look at porn mags and go to strip clubs. They like looking at “pretty/feminine” women but also see them as lesser-than. They say they can’t relate to women because they (we) are all air-heads who only care about doing our nails. Their conception of femininity is a negative stereo-type which they have internalized to the point that they feel in order to be seen as real people they must deny femininity entirely, shun femaleness and other women in favor of being the exact opposite: a raunch-loving, dirty joke telling, sexist ‘one of the guys’ (what Levy calls the “female chauvinist pig”). 

There are some women who are not feminine and don’t identify with femininity and that’s okay. There are some women who just get along better with men (I’m actually one of them myself), but it’s when you are actively putting down other women, basically selling out the rest of your gender in order to “get ahead” or be accepted by male friends that it turns nasty. 

^^Which is exactly what Levy is saying in the first place.

(Source: into-the-swallow-nest)